What is anger
Anger is a term for the emotional aspect of aggression as a fundamental part of the stress response in animals in which a perceived aggravating stimulus "provokes" a reaction, which is also aggravating and threatening violence. Very mild types of anger are usually described as "disgust", "dissatisfied" or "irritation", and "anger" refers to an extreme degree of anger associated with a loss of peace or discipline(In the case of human behavior).
In modern society, anger is seen as an uncivilized and immature response to frustration, threat, breach or loss. Instead, stay calm, coolheaded or turning the other cheek to be more socially acceptable. This conditioning can cause inappropriate expressions of anger that uncontrolled, violent outbursts of anger or pain, or other extreme, repressing feelings of anger (or shorttogether), when these feelings are an appropriate response to the situation. Also angry that there are still "bottled up" can lead to persistent violent thoughts or nightmares, or even physical symptoms like headaches, ulcers, or hypertension.
Angry Side Effects
Anger can aggravate a range of mental health problems. Anger can fuel depression. Depressed people usually take care of themselves. They indulge in self-destructiveactivities such as excessive drinking, smoking, overeating, take risks and do not see their economies. Depressed people have less energy, decreased appetite, and need more sleep. Their performance will decrease and relationships deteriorate.
Many people believe that depression is actually anger inside. The reason for this assumption is depressed because many respond to stress by turning their anger in it as a response to emotional or physical abuse ornegligence on the part of parents or parental figures. After a while, 'become habits, coping mechanisms they used inappropriate and unreasonable when they see the loss or frustration.
depressive tendency to grow, believing that if they are injured or abused, there are only two options, guilt and denial of guilt. A depressive effect of denial of anger is that their relationships are often unhappy and not"Break" that others seem to have. You may not get promotions, call social or love, because the reality is that most people do not want to be around depressed people indefinitely, both at home and at work. Another side effect of anger is that you can feed the addiction and obsessions, phobias.
Obsessions and phobias arise situations where for some reason we are either losing control of oneself or the world around us. Anger canalso fuel manic tendencies. Many people who are unable to express anger to let out into furious activity. Sometimes this activity has reached a breaking point and cause clinical depression or bipolar disorder.
Anger can also add fuel to the paranoia and prejudice, even in normal everyday situations. People have a tendency to aggressively press their anger either passively or with the base flight "response", repression and denial of anger.Aggressive behavior is associated with the fight "response" and the use of physical force and verbal abuse and anger at the other wounded.
The symptoms of rabies
Anger can be one of two main types: the rage and anger. This kind of passive aggressive anger has some characteristic symptoms:
Passive anger
Passive anger can be expressed in the following ways:
1. Secretive behaviorresentments of storage that are behind the people or digging through Sly said that the silent treatment or under the breath mutterings, avoiding eye contact, because men, gossip, anonymous complaints, poison pen letters, stealing, and instructions.
2. Manipulation as a challenge to people of aggression and then patronizing forgiveness, provoking aggression but staying on the sidelines, emotional blackmail, tears in genuine, faking an illness, sabotaging relationships,using sexual provocation, a third negative feelings, withholding money or resources.
3. Self-incrimination, such as apologizing too often overly critical, inviting criticism.
Self-sacrifice, as being too good, he refused to do with second best, quietly making long suffering signs but refusing help, or lick gratitude and making friendly digs where it is installed.
4. Inefficiencies, such as setting yourself and others up for failure,choosing unreliable people to depend on how accident prone, underachieving, sexual impotence, says frustration over insignificant things but ignoring serious ones.
5. Dispassionate, as the cold shoulder or fake smile, looking cool, sitting on the fence while others sort things out, dampening feelings with substance abuse (to include overeating), alarm, do not respond to 'anger others, frigidity, sexual practices in the spontaneity and deletes make objects of participants, causing large amounts of time to machines, objects or intellectual pursuits, talking of frustrations but showing no emotion.
6. obsessive behaviors that need to be clean, neat, make a habit of constantly checking, over-dieting or overeating, demanding that all work is well done.
7. Escapes come back in a crisis, avoiding conflict, not arguing back, becoming phobic.
Aggressive> Anger
The symptoms of aggressive anger are:
1. Threatened by frightening people by saying that, their property or their prospects, finger pointing, fist shaking could damage, wearing clothes associated with violent behavior that runs on the tail of someone to fix a car horn, slamming doors.
2. Male with physical violence, verbal abuse, foul play jokes, breaking a confidence, playing loud music, using foul language, ignoring people's feelingsintentionally discriminatory, the blame or punish people for acts that are not known, committed, labeling others.
3. Devastating, affecting objects, deliberately destroys a relationship between two people, driving recklessly, drinking too much.
4. Bullying, like people threatening, harassing, stroke, or push, to use force to oppress, shouting, with a powerful car to force someone off the road, playing on the weaknesses of people.
5. Unjustly accused asblames others for his mistakes, blaming people for their feelings, some general accusations.
6. Manic like talking too fast, driving too fast, too much work and expects others to adapt, driving too fast, reckless spending.
7. Great, as confidence in the delegate confirmation is not a poor loser, like the heart, not always, listening, talking over people's heads, waiting for kiss and make up sessions to solve problems.
8.Selfishly ignoring other needs, do not respond to requests for help, queue jumping 'cutting in' when driving.
9. Vengeful, such as over-punitive, refusing to forgive and forget that painful memories of the past.
10. As unpredictable as hot and cold gas, explosive anger minor frustrations, attacking indiscriminately, dispensing punishment out of the blue-inflicted injury to others only for these, the use of alcohol and drugs are knowndestabilize mood by using illogical arguments.
Tips for Anger Management
1. Relax
means of relaxation, such as deep breathing and relaxing images may help calm feelings of anger. There are books and courses that can teach you relaxation techniques, and once you learn the techniques, you can call on them in every situation. If you are involved in a relationship where both partners are hot-tempered, it might be a good idea for you twothese techniques to learn.
A few simple steps you can try:
1. Breathe deeply from the diaphragm, breathing from your chest not relax. Picture your breath coming from your belly. "
2. Slowly repeat a calm word or phrase such as "Relax, Take It Easy." Repeat this deep breathing for you.
3. Use pictures, view a relaxing experience, whether from memory or your imagination.
4. No strenuous, slow yoga-like exercises can relax your muscles andmake you feel much calmer.
Practice these techniques every day. Learning to use automatically when you are in a tense situation.
2. cognitive restructuring
In short, it means changing the way we think. Angry people tend to curse, swear or speak in highly colorful terms that reflect their inner thoughts. If you are angry, your thinking can get exaggerated and too dramatic. Try replacing these thoughts with more rational. For example, instead of sayingyourself: "Oh, it's awful, it's terrible, everything is ruined," tell yourself, "It 's frustrating and it is understandable that I'm sorry, but this is not the end of the world and evil are not still resolve."
Be careful with words like "never" or "always" when talking about yourself or anyone else. "This! Machine & *% never works," or "you're always forgetting things" are not only wrong, but also make you realize that your anger is justifiedAnd there is no way to solve this problem. They also alienate and humiliate people who might otherwise be willing to work with you on a solution.
Do you think getting angry is not something that will make you feel better (and you can actually make worse) to be solved.
Logic defeats anger, because anger, even if justified, can quickly irrational. So use cold hard logic on yourself. Do you think the world is not "out to getyou, "you're just experiencing some of the rough spots of the things of everyday life. Do it when you feel anger getting the better of you and will help create a more balanced perspective. angry trend that seeks justice, appreciation, agreement that the availability for get things their way. Everyone wants these things, and we are all hurt and disappointed when I do not understand, but angry people demand them, and when their demands are not met, their disappointment becomes anger. Ifpart of their cognitive restructuring, angry people need to become aware of their demanding nature and translate their expectations of lust. In other words, says: "I would like" something is healthier than saying, "I demand" or "I need something. If you can not find what you want, you will experience the normal reactions of anger, frustration, disappointment, pain, but not. Some angry people use this anger as a way to avoid feeling bad, but this does not mean that thethe pain goes away.
3. Troubleshooting
Sometimes, anger and frustration, as the result of a very real and inescapable problems in our lives. Not all anger is misplaced, and often it is a natural and healthy reaction to these problems. There is also a cultural belief that every problem a solution, and this adds to our frustration to find that it is not always the case. The best attitude to bring such a situation is not to focus on researchsolution, but rather how you handle and deal with the problem.
Make a plan and monitor your progress along the road. Leave it to give the best of yourself, but do not punish if the response does not arrive soon. If you can not approach with your best intentions and efforts and make a serious attempt to clear head, you're less likely to lose patience and fall into all or nothing thinking, even if you can not resolve the problem immediately.
4. BetterCommunications
Angry people tend to go and act on the results and some conclusions could be very wrong. The first thing to do when you are in a heated discussion is slow down and think through your responses. Do not say the first thing that comes to mind, but slow down and think carefully about what you say. At the same time, listening attentively to what the other person says and take your time before he answered.
Hear what underliesanger. For example it is a certain amount of freedom and personal space, and your "significant other" wants more connection and closeness. If he or she begins to complaints about your activities, victimization by painting your partner as a jailer.
And 'natural to get defensive when criticized, but not to fight. Rather than listen to what's behind the words, the message that the person might feel neglected and unloved. It can be a very patient questioning onyour part, and can be a relief, but do not let your anger or a late-partner is a discussion spin out of control. Keep calm, the situation prevented a disaster.
5. Use Humor
"Silly humor" can help defuse rage in a number of ways. First, you can help create a more balanced perspective. When you get angry and call someone a name or a reference to them in some imaginative phrase, stop and photographs that word would belooks literally. If you're at work, and think of a partnership as a "dirtbag" or a "single-cell life form," for example, imagine a large bag of dirt (or an amoeba) sitting at the desk of a colleague, talking to phone, go to meetings. Do this whenever a name is in another person's head. If you can, draw a picture of the real thing looks. It will be a lot of the sting out of your anger and humor can always count on to help in a timesituation.
The underlying message of highly angry people, Dr. Deffenbacher says, is "things should go my way!" Angry people tend to feel morally right that every block or change their plans is an unbearable insult and should not suffer in this way. Maybe others do, but not them!
If you feel that urge, he suggests, picture yourself as a god or goddess, a supreme leader, streets and shops of property and office space, and walking alonethe way in all situations, while others deferred to you. The details can be found in your imaginary scenes, the more likely you realize that you can be unreasonable, you will realize how unimportant the things you're really angry. There are two notices of using humor. First, try not to just "laugh" your problems, but rather, use humor to help yourself make more constructive. Second, do not mind loud, sarcastic humor, is just anotherform of unhealthy anger expression.
What these techniques have in common is a refusal to take seriously for yourself, too. Anger is a feeling seriously, but is often accompanied by ideas that, if examined, can make people laugh.
6. Changing the environment
Sometimes it is our immediate environment that our reason for irritation and anger. Problems and responsibilities can weigh on you and make you feel angry about the "trap" that seem to have fallen and allpeople and events that shape the stairs.
Take a break. Be sure to have some "personal time" scheduled for times of day that you know are particularly stressful. One example is the working mother, who has a standing rule that when she came home from work, for the first 15 minutes, "Nobody speaks to the mother unless the house is on fire." After this brief quiet time, she felt better prepared to handle demands from her children without blowing them.
7. More Adviceup to relieve yourself
Timing: If you and your spouse tend to fight when you discuss things at night, maybe you're tired or distracted, or maybe it's just habit to try to change the times when talking about important issues, such reversals are not conversation topics.
Prevention: If your child's chaotic room makes you furious every time you walk through it, closing the door. Do not be looking at what infuriates. Do not say, "Well, my child clean up the room so I do notmad! "It's not the point. The point is to remain calm.
Finding alternatives: If your daily commute through traffic leaves you in a state of anger and frustration, give yourself a project-learn or draw a different path, one that is less dense or more scenic. Or other alternatives, such as a bus or commuter train.